Have you ever been in a place where you keep getting the same old results and not getting much traction? Or felt like it just wasn’t worth the hard work to do something you wanted to do? Well, if you’re fed up with complacency, these 4 steps to gain clarity are for you!
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” Henry Ford
You’ve heard that saying before, and I’ve been there myself and have witnessed this with others working on their personal finances… but what if there was a way to gain traction, find the motivation to put in the hard work, and get the results you’re after?
This powerful 4 step “Gaining Clarity” exercise (which has been adapted from Dean Graziosi), Connects You Emotionally to your “Why” and helps you Tear Down Barriers that are holding you back from Maximizing the Effectiveness of Your Finances.
Let’s walk through the 4 basics steps:
This Gaining Clarity exercise will help you create a “Culture of Progress”, one that moves you forward day by day with action and engagement.
1. UNCOVER YOUR CURRENT FINANCIAL SITUATION
So let's start with your current situation – where are you with your personal finances, with your mindset, with your current habits/behaviors, and how do you feel about all of that? Although this part should be easy to figure out because it’s where you are right now, it actually might be challenging if you’ve had your head in the sand about your current situation, and you’ve just been doing the same old same old, thinking that things somehow will work themselves out.
Well, if you have a desire to go someplace other than where you are, someplace new, you first need to be clear about your starting point – similar to when you're in your car and you have a GPS. For your finances, truthfully exposing your current reality is an extremely important first step.
So, what IS your current reality, your pain points? Would you say any of the following: I don’t have enough money to pay my bills. I make enough money to pay my bills, but I only pay partial payments on my credit card debt. I have student loans or car loans hanging over my head. I’m saving for a house, but it’s taking a long time. I spend more time working and worrying about finances than spending time with my family. If I had money to work on my health / body, I’d be in better shape. My marriage or relationships are suffering due to financial issues and stress. I have a dream to write a book, go to the mission field, retire early… but my current financial state isn’t what it needs to be to do those things.
Don't just say, “Oh, I just want to make more money” – No! Say, “I'm behind on my mortgage and I feel like a failure”, or “I have no money in savings, and I’m afraid of what may be coming down the road”, or “I want to get out of debt and have an emergency fund in place before we start a family but we’re nowhere near that, and that is sad and frustrating”, or “I want to figure out a plan to retire early so that I can do what brings me joy and makes me feel fully alive”.
I encourage you to tell yourself the truth and to dig deep and then deeper below your initial answer about your current situation and how you feel about it. This will help you determine your goals and get to a WHY that will be strong enough to propel you forward.
KATALYTIC: Coming out of college/grad school, I would have said, “My husband and I have good jobs, but we’re in debt with a school loan and new car loan, and we don’t really know the best way to tackle our debt, save for a house, a family, retirement, etc. and in what order. We’re confused and just kind of wandering aimlessly, doing what we think is best.” Honestly, we didn't even know enough to say those things or to ask questions.
So where are YOU right now? What is your current situation? Think about it before we move forward to our destination, which we're going to define in a moment, and let’s set our GPS to our starting point.
--> Take a few minutes and start writing down words or phrases that represent where you are right now.
2. CLARIFY YOUR FINANCIAL GOALS
Great! Now that you know where you are, where do you want to go? Consider… looking back one year from today, what would have made this year the best year of your financial life?
If we can extract ourselves from our crazy busy lives and envision ourselves one year from now, what would that year look like? Feel like? Would you say: It's been the best year of my financial life. I got the raise. I saved for the house. I got out of debt. I have a fully-funded emergency fund. My relationships are less stressful. I started my business. I’m able to stay home with my kids. Whatever it is, it's the best year of your life. What did you accomplish? What did that year look like AND FEEL like?
Many of you will get sucked into what you DON’T want out of life… so if that’s you, just jot down what you don’t want. What aren't your goals -- the opposite of your goals? I don't want the stress of my car breaking down and needing repairs that I can’t afford. I don't want the stress of letting my family down financially. I don't want to keep spending more than I make. I don't want to be in the job I’m in...
Now instead of focusing your energy on the things that you don't want or on things that you’ve already been doing that don’t move you forward, let’s flip those and gain clarity on what you DO WANT, so that all your energy can go towards that future. No more dissatisfaction or complacency! You've got to be focused in the right direction with clarity, intentionality, and determination. Stop wandering aimlessly. Spend time really thinking and reflecting - don’t allow yourself to get derailed.
So, what DO you want?
The clearer you are on your values / your goals / your mission, the more your decisions can be aligned with those and drive what you choose to do, buy, say, and what you say “Yes” or “No” to…
So with this step, what I want to do is help you define your hopeful future and how to move towards it, so that you can avoid all the things that aren't building your finances and your life. Where is it that you want to go -- so you know where to put all of your energy, set your course on your GPS for the direction towards that hopeful future.
Again, looking back one year from now on your best financial year – what does it look like? How have you altered your financial life to reduce stress, plan for the future, live life fully with your family? Have you cut your expenses or sold your truck? Have you stuck to your budget and taken control of your finances so that you’re living within your means? Where are you with your job or your business? Have you gotten a raise or started a new side hustle? Have you started flipping houses? Have you saved a chunk toward retirement? And this isn’t just about finances -- How are your family/friend/work relationships? Where are you with your relationship with God? How are you physically and health-wise? What kind of impact have you had on your community / the world? Have you learned how to say NO based on your values & vision. Have you stopped looking at Facebook or Instagram and thinking that everyone’s life is better, more fun, more glamorous?
KATALYTIC: For me and my husband, starting from where we were, our first best financial year included:
Whatever it is for you, one year from now looking back over your best year of finances/life – what does it look like?
And just like that -- that's where you want to go. Those are your goals, so now you can start saying no to everything that doesn’t align with your vision/your goals. Well done!
3. IDENTIFY YOUR MOTIVATION (your “Why”) AND ACT ON IT
Now, if you know where you are and you know where you want to go, WHY do you want to put in the time and effort, and maybe even sacrifice, to do what needs to be done to meet your goals? Why is it important that you get out of debt, double your income, get an emergency fund, provide for your family, have less financial stress, save for retirement? My hope for you is that you can work through this step and come up with a powerful WHY to keep you motivated to reach the next level! This is extremely important – you don’t want to skip this!
You might say, “I want to get out of debt.” That's great, but why do you really want that? Is it for the significance? Is it because your parents were always arguing about money when you were a kid and you don’t want that kind of environment for your kids? Or were you never able to take a vacation as a kid and you want to be able to offer that to your family? Do you want to have more money for retirement so you could be secure? Do you want to give more money to charity to help others? Do you want to rekindle the relationship with your husband/wife? Do you want to find time to be with your grandchildren? Do you want to travel the world? Do you want to get a second house? Do you want to stop running on a treadmill your whole life. Why, why, and why? I don't know what it is, but I promise you it's deeper. I want you to dig into your heart and your emotions. Get out of your head and go from your heart.
There is a deeper “why” than you're even thinking of. If you tell me, “I want to get out of debt”. Why? “so that my income isn’t going to pay interest to the banks”. Okay, but so what? Why is that important? “Cuz’ I want to be financially secure enough that I can be a stay-at-home mom with my kids, and with no debt I’d be able to leave my job and do that.” Okay, now we’re getting somewhere! Are you getting to an emotional place? I think you are, but if not, you’re not digging deep enough.
4. ANCHOR YOUR "WHY"
Lastly, you’re going to anchor your WHY strongly within yourself so that it’s full of life, passion, fire, and hustle. You’ll do this through visualization. I want you to spend 30 seconds with the goals you just listed and your WHY firmly set in your heart, and close your eyes and visualize what it’s going to look like in your life when you’ve achieved your financial goals (and/or life goals) this year.
How does it feel to have no debt? How does it feel to see that balance in your emergency fund account? How does it feel to be able to write that check to pay off your car with cash in your bank account that you earned? Or to take your kids on a vacation with cash that you set aside? Or put a down payment on a house you’ve always dreamt of? Or to be able to quit your job and start that business you always wanted to start? How does it feel?
It feels AMAZING; that’s how it feels. I want you to just savor that and let that anchor you, because visualization is reprogramming your brain to see the evidence that you are, in fact, capable, confident, and can do this. If you want to use the powerful life that God gave you, do not let fear of failure or any self-doubt stand in your way!
Instead, I encourage you to spend 30 seconds a day visualizing your future reality and all that you’re capable of. You can do this! This will keep the life and passion in your WHY and will Tear Down the Barriers holding you back from reaching that Next Level!
Personal Finance Katalyst
The mindset and capabilities that you’ve had in the past have led you to where you are now, but this is NOT where you’re going to stay.
With clarity, you now know what your current situation is, you know where you want to go, you’ve gotten to the heart and soul of WHY this is important to you, and you know how to anchor your WHY in order to stay motivated to do the hard work.
Finally, you are ready to start attacking your financial situation with purpose so that you can move toward the Future that you wrote down for yourself; your top 3-5 goals.
I will provide you with knowledge and capabilities to get there and will continue to encourage and cheer you on, so now you just need to engage, do your best, make course corrections when needed, and keep moving towards your hopeful financial future. You’ve got this!
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As a certified Personal Finance coach (and homeschooler of 15 years), Kathleen has worked with people of all ages, but her passion is to help kids/teens/young adults take control of their finances early, learn entrepreneurial skills, generate multiple income streams, and get on a path to Financial Hope & Freedom so they can live into their passions and purpose. (Free Webinar on how to Empower Money Smart Kids with Financial Literacy & Entrepreneurial Skills)